Do you feel stuck to the memories of your previous relationship? You really want to move on, but something is holding you back?
Recovering from a long term relationship can be extremely challenging and painful. Whether you’re ready or not, you’re suddenly thrust into a new phase of life and now, you have to start all over again!
Without even realizing, certain aspects of your life shaped around your long term relationship and you depended on that one person for pretty much anything and everything. But now, all that has to change.
You need to cherish your independence once again!
Initiate by celebrating your personal and professional accomplishments. Keep yourself occupied by indulging in activities out of your room. Staying at one place grips us emotionally and one might end up feeling even more depressed.
However, it’s really very hard to be with someone else after you end up a long term relationship.
Let’s find out why.
You fear another heart break!
The very thought of yet another breakup scares you to the core. So much that you start imagining all the irrelevant scenarios.
“What if this relationship doesn’t work-out as well? What if I end up being in the same place all over again?”
Grieving is healthy, it does make you stronger. But you shouldn’t let your grief turn into your fear and affect your future relationships. Take your time, heal from the pain and then bounce back stronger than before!
Remember, you can never grow as a person if you escape circumstances instead of dealing with them.
You’re diving in your past!
You have been so used to your girlfriend or boyfriend, now you feel emotionally stuck.
Your dependence on one person in your long term relationship is making you feel vulnerable. Somewhere in the mind, you still feel attached to them; you don’t know how you would replace them with someone else in your life.
Well, give yourself a chance to experience something new and perhaps more fulfilling to find a way out of it!
You don’t know what to tell your friends and family!
Responding to your close ones and their never-ending questions is a task!
Whenever a long term relationship ends, it not only affects two people but also the expectations of their friends and family. With you, your parents and best friends also get so used to asking about your girlfriend or boyfriend. They start visualizing the two of you together in every aspect of life. This leaves you clueless about what to say to after your long-term relationship is over.
Just talk-it-out and they will certainly understand and brace you in getting out of it!
Everything you do reminds you of them!
From wearing your favourite shirt to visiting your best-loved café, everything you see or do, makes you think of them.
All those memories still haunt you like a ghost!
Even if you try your best to keep yourself distracted, something or the other turns up which doesn’t let you forget them. Moving on from a long term relationship is tough.
Confronting is curative. Running away will only intensify your woes.
How did you move on after ending up a long term relationship? What helped you to get over it? Do share with us in the comments below.