The author of Body Language Secrets: A Guide to Courtship and Dating, R. Don Steele says, “The desire is evolutionary. Females want someone who’s not going to run from a fight, a man who is confident in his ability to provide and protect.”
The simple explanation to the statement above is that the one who is brave gets the girl. So, if you really want to be the attractive one to women, go and show your swagger. But not just like anything. Here are some points that can be more effective techniques.
WALK THIS WAY
“Women look first at your attire and second at how you walk,” says Steele. Now, keep your wardrobe a stylish one and the one that is impeccable. A Los Angeles based image consultant, Ashley Rothschild suggests that you emulate the image of a successful public man in the business arena. She also thinks that a leather jacket can add a hot look to you. It’s just classic.
And your stride? Just slow it down. Steele says that the people who are confident, they don’t walk in a hurry. But there is obviously a difference between meandering and walking in a slow stride with a purpose. Always walk as if you very well know where you are going and what you are doing.
LOOK HER IN THE EYES
There is a way of saying things to a woman. Just look her into those eyes. If you tell her that you love her smile while gazing at the feet, well, you will just reek of insincerity or insecurity.
If you feel strange in locking the eyes with a stranger, then you can focus on her mouth. In this way, she is not going to know the difference because you have your face in front of hers and she feels that you are looking at her, says Renee Piane, a motivational speaker and author of Love Mechanics: Power Tools to Build Successful Relationships.
Also, if you compliment on the realistic things, she is definitely going to respond. Like, if you tell her ‘You are the physical embodiment of everything that I have ever searched for in any woman’, this will be a bit too much to digest and it will immediately set off her alarm. But if you tell her ‘ You have beautiful eyelashes’, this will make her blush and what more of a response you need than this one.
TAKE A COMPLIMENT
The author of How to Work a Room, Susan Roane says that when she gives you a compliment simply ‘smile and say thank you’. Accept the compliment because that’s what secure people do. If a person is insecure, they will start deflecting the completing coming to their way by saying ‘ Really? You think so?’ or by giving some reasons about why they don’t deserve the compliments that she has given to them and all that.
CALL BEFORE DAY THREE
Did she give you her number? Bravo. Use it within 48 hours or you are going to look either scared or too stupid for resorting to high school mind games. I know you are nervous. But you will have to solve the trouble. Nobody is going to do it for you. Manage the cold call like you are on a business call.
Judith Coche, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and professor at the University of Pennsylvania says, “Executives are action-oriented, gathering information and wasting no time in getting a project started. Apply these tactics to your private life”.
PERFORM AT THE BEER
If you are getting a voicemail from her, be that one guy today who leaves a message. For conveying confidence, keep your voice deep and moderately loud. Hum a little while standing up just before you call as it will bring your voice to the ideal pitch that is just required.
“Say who you are, where you met, and why you’re calling,” says Kent Sayre, author of Unstoppable Confidence. “Ask a question that presupposes her interest in you, like, ‘How soon would you like to get together?’ That way it’s not a matter of yes or no.”
Leave your number and tell her to call you back. But if she doesn’t, nothing to worry about. You call her again after a couple of days.
DON’T EXPOSE YOUR NEGATIVES
When you are talking about yourself, just keep it positive. Stick to the interests that you are passionate about and to your best attributes.
Author of Relationships for Dummies, a Ph.D., and a psychologist, Kate Wachs says, “Give the press-release version of you. Tell her everything good about your life that you wouldn’t mind seeing in 4 inch-high letters on the front page of the newspaper the next morning.”
HAVE A SEAT
Steele says that you should always position yourself at a 90-degree angle to her instead of straight on for a dinner date. If she is sitting at the end of the table, just sit in the first set to her left. Turn toward her from the waist and this will eventually give her the opportunity to turn toward you.
“Women don’t like a full-frontal assault. It’s intimidating,” says Steele. “A confident man realizes he should give the woman the choice to turn to him, and he is sure that she will.”
If you would like to enter into her apartment, tell her that at the door and just skip that old excuse about using the bathroom. Do you want to kiss her goodnight? Do it. Because kissing someone is just an emotional thing and asking about it can divert it into a cognitive realm instead. Women hate that, says Wachs.
CELEBRATE HER SUCCESS
A man who is confident doesn’t feel emasculated if the woman he is with earns more than he does. He takes it as a compliment.
“More than ever, successful single women earning more than $60K a year are looking for warm, loving men,” says Coche. “They’re more selective in their partner choice because they can afford to reprioritize.”
The truth is, she will not date you if she did not think that you are a catch. It is usually when you believe it yourself that she will be convinced.Tags: Be More Confident with Women